Quick reveal:

Some have confused my “learned and measured and practiced patience” as permission… to go further and further in their misbehavior… but these things don’t go on forever. =) Eventually…. I DO have what many refer to as a FTS moment… and clear up any confusion.

Eventually.
You know, when I’ve had ENUF. =)
When I’ve come to the very end of what I’m willing to tolerate, when I get to a spot that — frankly — I’m unwilling to LIVE in any more.

It’s THESE moments that have changed everything for me. And always in the best of ways.

In fact, this morning’s #EntrepreneurialEspresso was inspired by this fact. I asked our Women Who WOW members to join me in creating a collective FTS moment, where we declare NO MORE over a circumstance, a pattern, a “reality” that we are NO LONGER willing to tolerate.

Many have asked me about my fierce independence.
HOW did I get to the place where I honestly don’t CARE what anyone thinks of me? Where I am unapologetically willing — and PREFER — to bet on me, above any and every other option?

I have never given a completely honest answer, until now. I WAS born confident and raised to bet on me. But, my RUTHLESS and RELENTLESS self-reliance can be traced back to this,
to ONE true FTS moment…
that changed everything.

In college I was drowning in so many ways. I literally couldn’t sink low enough for anyone to notice. My light had long ago gone out, and yet…. no one came to inquire about it.

One day, I sat in my car and SCREAMED at the world, at God. I was FURIOUS. Furious that no one noticed. Furious that I didn’t DARE tell anyone how bad off I was. Furious that life had led me here. Furious at my circumstances. Furious that I was afraid. Furious enough to walk away… or die trying.

I wasn’t willing to live like this any more. So pitiful and alone and unseen. In THAT moment in my car, I took God’s outstretched hand and decided NO MORE.
I would no longer
EVER again
require human attention or affirmation.

I would NO LONGER look outside of myself for ANYTHING. Never again would I NEED something from someone else.

In that moment, I started digging my way out of a hole no one even knew I was in. I was never again the same person. I was stronger, more confident. Unafraid. Hardened, for sure. (In full disclosure, there are times I miss that tender girl that was…. and in some ways, I’m opening myself back up to her.) But that day, I had a moment, drew a line in the sand, and emerged from my car a new creation. The power of a FTS moment.

The power of a TRUE FTS moment.

Many ask me about my marriage. And I have an amazing marriage. DESPITE knowing that I am a hard woman to love. =) I require so much. Absolute freedom. (I can’t be hemmed in.) Absolute loyalty and trust. Sex. Friendship. Physical closeness, and yet a good deal of solitude. I need to be seen fully, and have my craziness respected even if not really understood. =) I DO require a lot. But I also give a lot.

Chris and I started strong. He saw me when no one else did. He is the man my Mom prayed for since I came into this world…. I have no doubt of that. But just because he’s my soul-mate, God-chosen, prayed up partner doesn’t mean it was all going to be roses.

My marriage went through an insanely rough few years. I dutifully endured. Practiced patience. Prayed. Believed. Trusted. Some things would get better, and then go back to the way they were. I was never abused or cheated on or anything like that, but my marriage was BARELY hanging on. I thought often of leaving, and few would have judged me harshly for it. But I’m stubborn and THIS was my love story, this man was my forever, this husband… was my home.

And one day…
I had that same FTS moment.
I drew MY line in the sand and let Chris know where it was. Like leaving the car that day in college, I emerged different. More determined. Stronger.

And my marriage grew deeper as we dug ourselves out of that dark season to create the marriage we now enjoy.

Righteous anger, I call it.
Also, in my less spiritual moments… a FTS moment. =)

I had the same in my business.
When I had been “enduring” the same monthly income for far too long. When I was disrespected by a long time client. (when I had private clients.) When I was challenged on my beliefs and how they impacted my business. (ummm… in EVERY way, as our beliefs literally form the CORE of who we are, how we show up, and what we expect!) Plus, I had a very big goal that I was FAILING at… miserably.

It was a bad week. lol…

And in one moment,
that FTS energy showed up again.
Fueled by an ANGER that raged against the status quo, enraged by the thought of going even ONE MORE day at this level of mediocrity, I drew my line in the sand.

I fired the client.
And made plans to get rid of ALL my clients.
I wrote out a new vision for my business, undeterred by what many would consider a “too aggressive” approach or too lofty of goals.

I stood up in that moment,
emerging from my office — again — a new creation.
I — and my business — have never been the same since.

This IS the upside of righteous anger,
when it RAGES against what you should NOT be willing to tolerate… when it increases your temperature to such a degree that you literally CAN NOT REMAIN where you are, when it FORCES you out of the circumstances you have known, when it COMPELS you
to stand up and walk away….
from what you have known
and into the future
that you were BORN FOR.

So, what do you NEED to declare FTS over today?
Where do you need to STOP tolerating?
What do you need to get MAD ENOUGH ABOUT to leave behind…. for good?

P.S. Decisive intolerance is a critical component of success, by the way. So, if you have been enduring a business that is mediocre in income, a business that — frankly — is well below what you KNOW you were born for… if you are ready to GO BIG — entirely on your own terms…. if the “local sand box” no longer lights you up, and if you were honest, it never did…. if you want to be KNOWN, FOLLOWED and paid what you are WORTH,

Message me.
NOW is the time.
To walk away,
to step up,
to rise and declare.
And I have something special to offer you.

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⚡️ to respond to discount requests from prospects,
⚡️ to re-up a client for a new engagement,
⚡️ to close a deal that seems to be cooling off,
⚡️ to package an offer so that it’s a hell yes…
⚡️ to refuse a request or client that’s not right,
⚡️ to frame a situation “favorably,” whether it’s to win an award or stay out of trouble… *wink**

Or basically anything that requires words to create a specific action or result. =)

HOW I know
what to say
in what tone,
with HOW MUCH punctuation,
and with the exact amount of “take it or leave it” attachment
when these things ALWAYS vary from person to person,
brand to brand,
situation to situation…

Has NOTHING to do with strategies I’ve learned over the years… the assumptive close, the take away close, the hard close, the soft close, the summary close or
ANY
OTHER
SUCH
(contrived and rehearsed)
method or technique.

For me what it is
and what it has ALWAYS been
is an obsessive love affair,
with that SEXY AS HELL intersection
of words
and intention
and psychology
and commerce.

I have an affinity with these things,
a kinship,
a fascination,
a true LOVE
of that intersection.

I don’t approach it with strategy, but with heart.
But also…
how can I say THAT?

I spend a LOT of time reading, studying, thinking about, day dreaming about, sketching about….
sales
and words
and intention
and psychology
and commerce. =)

These things are part of me,
part — now — of how I think.
They’re always there.
They’re foundational to me at this point…
20+ years in to a singular course of study, if you will.

But it’s ON this foundation that I get to DANCE when members come in with their questions. It’s ON this foundation that I get to lead with heart, feel into EVERY email and situation and nuanced word.

THIS is the hot bed of my love affair.

So, my question is…
How do YOU approach your work?
Is it a LOVE affair? is it something that you can DAY DREAM about, that you literally get excited to do?

Because THIS energy is what creates the success you want,
This PASSION that builds the foundation,
on which you can dance.

Did you hear???? I’m holding a deep dive, 1-day LIVE intensive in Dallas THIS Saturday!! This mastermind intensive will show you EXACTLY how to go from ATTAGIRL to CHA-CHING faster — and with WAY more ease — than ever before. We will help you learn how to sell from the heart. Forget rehearsing phrases and copying jargon you hate but hope will make some money.

In ONE day, you will:

⚡️ identify your highest energy selling activity (different for everyone);
⚡️build an authentic and effective sales sequence around THAT ↑
⚡️identify what is (and what’s NOT) working in your selling style and sequence, and
⚡️ optimize your business for more interest, leads and income!

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For example, I could never get a handle on the whole home-making thing. I joke about it now, and I joked about it then… but in my heart, I WRESTLED with why I couldn’t just “see” what needed to be done and do it.

Another example, I have two daughters and a son. Do you know I have NEVER played dolls or trucks with my kids? Not once? Getting down into the floor with them to play with toys, don’t hate me, but it never happened.

I was VERY present, but not in the “play in the floor” way. I took them on adventures, we played make believe (outside) for entire days, we played in the mud after storms. I just couldn’t bring myself to get excited, or even FAKE excitement regarding the dolls, trucks, cars, etc.

And while I’m spilling my guts,
I ALWAYS secretly looked forward to working. There were times when I’d RATHER have been working than say… nursing one kid, feeding another with one hand and answering the oldest’s incessant questions about life. =) Today, I admit I look back with a heavy dose of nostalgia. Those moments were precious. I am INFINITELY grateful that I was there for them, that I didn’t have to hear about how my kids’ day went from a sitter.

But I POIGNANTLY remember how my mind and my heart OFTEN slipped away to my work… how I looked so forward to nap time, so I could WORK, because I loved it.

I wrestled with how a Mom who loved her kids as much as I did didn’t JOYFULLY LOSE HERSELF in the whole stay at home mom thing. I wrestled with how DRAWN I was to the “other” stuff. I wrestled with how this work lit me up inside, and how other stuff felt, well… (a lot) less lit up.

I wrestled because I grew up ASSUMING
I’d be that mom. The PTA mom. (Never joined the PTA.) the homeroom mom. (Did THAT once, but it didn’t work out so well.) The booster mom. (Never joined the boosters.) The mom who brought cute snacks to school. (I always bought drinks or paper products.)

I struggled with not being the wife and mom I thought I SHOULD have been. But NONE of this came from the opinion of others. It was all self-imposed.

UNTIL…
one day…
when I just accepted and embraced ALL of me.

You know… I don’t clean the house.
And a lot of wives do.
But I love sex.
And a lot of wives don’t.

And, I’m not the best cook.
But I’m always trying healthy versions of recipes,
and I’m giving myself an A for effort.

You’re right. I never did the toy or doll thing.
But through our make believe days,
my kids learned to be creative, to problem solve. They learned how to think FAST and critically. And it was FUN.

My kids will always know how much I love my work,
how it lights me up,
but they ALSO know how my world will STOP spinning for them when necessary.

The day I FULLY embraced who I am,
how **I** was made,
is the day no one else’s opinion of me mattered.

Even today, I know
and am reminded =)
that I am NOT universally “loved.”
I get it.

But not ONE drop of my own self-worth
is in ANY WAY
even connected
with what anyone thinks of me.

I am sharing this because THIS is true freedom.
And this is also a CRITICAL shift for women entrepreneurs to make.

When you have your SELF-WORTH stuff SORTED,
you no longer depend on your business
you no longer BURDEN your business
with making you feel loved
or wanted or
desired or
good enough…

And
ONLY at that point
can you LEAD and GROW the business,
the EMPIRE you are called to create.

P.S. For the FIRST time in 2019…
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Wrong. And I get it.
The scale is intimidating because it tells a story. Taking into account FAR MORE than just one day of “eating perfectly,” the scale simply measures your results… over time.

And business
does
the
exact
same
thing.

Whether the scale of business
is a GREAT place for you to show up…
or one you’d rather avoid….
depends on
whether you’ve been HEAVIER on
ACTION
or
EXCUSES…
over time.

You see, I KNOW why my Instagram account is a ghost town. It’s no great mystery to me. I never show up there. I don’t love it. I don’t enjoy posting there. Frankly, I think it’s OUTRAGEOUS that it has to be done on my phone.

So, while I OCCASIONALLY post there,
expecting it to be a major income producer for me
would be as delusional as OCCASIONALLY skipping dessert and expecting the scale to reward me.

And delusional doesn’t work so well in business. =)

Success requires
nuanced strategy
applied daily.

So, let’s talk about your business.
What is MOST frustrating to you?
Which goal has been MOST elusive?
Define that goal in your mind, and then… do a bit of an inquiry to figure out where you need the most support?

Do you know WHAT to do to bring it to life?
(i.e. is your strategy “sound/”)
Do you need a bit of MUSCLE to be sure the action is taken daily?
Do you know where you fall OFF of the action train, and slip onto the excuse bus? Are you aware of when determined action gives way to excuses… for YOU???? And do you have a plan to combat this?

If you have specific goal that has FELT elusive to you…
something you’ve “tried” before, but failed,
I want to talk with you.

Message me. let’s make it happen.

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By the way, 
I FIRMLY believe
and will never be convinced otherwise
that JEALOUSLY ONLY 
arises when we see something that 
should (and of course COULD) 
be ours. 
Moving on…

Because we all see and know these people who have it together in one area of their lives, we also know we’re probably that person for someone else.

For instance, I have a ton of faults.
I’m disorganized, last minute, messy.
I have ZERO sense of style.
I eat too much.
I’m stubborn.
My house looks like a train wreck on a lot of days.
I’m not easy to love… “an acquired taste” I’ve been called.
I’m also — for some — hard to like.
I’m intolerant of sloth, excuses and superfluous noise.
And THIS is just scratching the surface.

Still, I know that a lot of people reference Chris and I with the hashtag #couplegoals. And, we DO have something pretty incredible going on over here… something magical, something that is so abundant in all the ways… something that makes me — frankly— just glad to be a woman. 

But also, 
there’s something else going on here. 
Something that makes THIS KIND of marriage and partnership and love story a reality.

There’s a behind the scenes reel.
AS THERE IS FOR EVERY SINGLE THING
GOING REALLY “RIGHT”
IN ANY AREA
OF ANY PERSON’S LIFE.

That’s where I want to go today. This is not a lesson in jealousy or gratitude, but — you know — acknowledge the jealousy as a LIGHT being shined on what’s possible for you and also, of course, be grateful.

But THIS article is about looking for clues for how to make ANY thing in your life go “right.”

Example: I have a hot marriage. We are best friends, lovers and champions of each other. We are ONE, absolutely united. We stand together, prefer each other’s company over any other person, and have a lot of things going WELL for us.

Of course, we also endured some tougher times, a L-O-N-G season of a VERY tough time. 

Regardless of the season, though… 
here are the six things that were and are ALWAYS TRUE.

1. Priority
2. A certain level of intolerance
3. Daily Habits
4. Investment
5. Allowing
6. Rest

Priority.

Our marriage, our relationship, our sex life and our friendship was and is ALWAYS a priority. We never viewed “us” as something we’d get to later, or attend to when things “calmed down.” We didn’t take fancy vacations to escape, but REGULARLY invested in time alone, we put the kids to bed early ALWAYS….. and we protected our “us” time from anything that may infringe on it.

Priority… that is what keeps your friend in hot shape, or her house in perfect order. She makes nutrition and fitness a PRIORITY. There are certain things she never does, certain things she always does and certain excuses that are never made, because of the PRIORITY given to her body.

A Certain Level of Intolerance.

No matter how “bad” our marriage got, 
and it got bad enough to consider divorce… 
we never allowed CERTAIN things to happen.

We still had amazing sex.
We still slept in the same bed.
We never gave up the STANDARD of what our marriage could be.
We never considered “settling” for some contract-based, joy-robbing, romance-free, sexless, agreement of a partnership.

We weren’t where we could have been, 
but we NEVER lost sight of what we WANTED. 
We had a high standard 
and were INTOLERANT of anything less than that.

In fact, many of our fights were over exactly this… we were NOT the couple we could have been. We didn’t fight over money or sex or other people. We fought over the disparity between where we WERE and where we SHOULD have been.

The friend with the hot body… 
she wouldn’t TOLERATE an extra 15 pounds, 
it is UNACCEPTABLE to her.

side note: 
You often “get” what you will willingly accept.

Daily habits.

In any area of your life that is an area you’re PROUD of, there are daily habits at play. Fitness, finances, marriage, friendship, housekeeping, whatever.

If you want to improve ANY area of your life, 
DAILY attention will be given to it. PERIOD. Whoever’s body or home or marriage or money or business you’re looking at as the “gold standard,” got that way
and stays that way
due to daily habits.

Giving, or Investment.

That area of your life that is going really well right now? Well, it’s fueled by something. You’re GIVING something to that area of your life. 

Plain and simple…

So if you want to TRANSFER success to another area of your life, you’ll have to GIVE something: Time, effort, risk, vulnerability. Something.

Allowing / Receiving.

When something is going really RIGHT in your life, in mine.. or in hers, you can be assured that she NATURALLY allows and receives that sort of outcome.

In other words, her subconscious isn’t fighting against her stated goals.

I can tell you that this is a huge thing. 
Do you SAY you want an amazing relationship, but then seem to attract all the wrong guys? Do you say you want to be a millionaire, but then keep finding yourself barely making ends meet? Do you SAY you want a hot body, but keep gaining and losing the same 30 pounds?

If so, it’d be worth journaling on WHY YOU MAY **NOT** WANT THAT GOAL TO HAPPEN FOR YOU. Sounds counterproductive but it’s the opposite. Maybe you’re resisting wealth because of all the crap you heard growing up about rich people. (or maybe you fear “upsetting” the current balance in your marriage? ) Maybe you’re resisting losing weight because you fear it makes you vulnerable in some other area of your life. 

Journal it out to identify the beliefs that are FIGHTING against your willingness to allow or receive what you want.

Finally…
Rest in Blessing (God’s) & Gratitude.


The first five things are things you can absolutely control. They are what i call “your part.” But the sixth is God’s part. The sixth thing is just being grateful to a God that can do immeasurably more than you could ever think or imagine or dARE to ask for.

I know that somehow God brought me to Chris…
and also that somehow our very souls were knit together.

I rest knowing that I’m not in control of a lot
and that God DESIRES to bless me the same way I desire to bless my own kids.

So, if you are looking at ONE area of your life that have you “locked down” and it is going really well…. please know that with these six commitments, you can transfer that success to ANY area of your life.

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